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Letter from a Suicidal Father

The following is not my own work. The original article was written by Paul Elam at AVFM and can be found at this link.

http://www.avoiceformen.com/mens-rights/family-courts/here-come-the-lawyers-to-avfm-yet-again/

I am simply mirroring it here as I believe it important for the information to get spread as far and wide as possible. Please do the same if you can. We need to stick together.

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Does a wife who may have driven a husband to suicide with the assistance of our corrupt family court system, then have a legal right to claim copyright — of his suicide note?

According to attorney Rachelle E. Hill, of Bean, Kinney and Korman, and a judge, that is precisely the claim. Their lawyer has written the offices of A Voice for Men to demand that we remove a post from the forums containing the note.

It is not going to happen.

The text of the note was posted to our forums months ago. We considered doing a feature story on it at the time, but opted not to because we had no credible corroboration that the story was factual.

Attorney Hill, her law firm, and the suicide victim’s former wife have now resolved that matter to our satisfaction. The demand letter itself is sufficient for us to believe that the following note is genuine.*

The love that my daughter and I shared was truly special. She is a such a sweet, kind and gentle spirit. I am so sorry that I will not be there to see her grow into a beautiful woman. It absolutely crushed me to not be in her life over the last three years. I worked very hard as a father to build her confidence and self-esteem. She is smart, funny and considerate, but she didn’t know it yet. I pray that she realizes her strengths and her confidence in herself will continue to grow. I love you dearly, [name redacted].

 

My son [name redacted] was just entering Kindergarten, when I lost access to him. He is gregarious, outgoing and a great athlete. He is smart and fearless. He could have just as much fun by himself as he could with other kids. Even the older boys in our neighbourhood wanted to play with [name redacted]. It absolutely breaks my heart that I will not be able to help him grow into a man. I love you to, [name redacted]. I miss you both so much.

 

My identity was taken from me, as result of this process. When it began, I was a commercial real estate broker with CB Richard Ellis. I lived by the Golden rule and made a living by bringing parties together and finding the common ground. My reputation as a broker was built on my honesty and integrity. When it ended, I was broke, homeless, unemployed and had no visitation with my own children.

 

I had no confidence and was paralyzed with fear that I would be going to jail whenever my ex-wife wanted. Nothing I could say or do would stop it. This is what being to death or ‘targeted’ by a psychopath looks like. This is the outcome. I didn’t somehow change into a ‘high-conflict’ person or lose my ability to steer clear of the law. I’ve had never been arrested, depressed, homeless or suicidal before this process. The stress and pressure applied to me was deliberate and nothing I could do or say would get me any relief. Nothing I or my attorneys said to my ex-wife’s attorney or to the Court made any difference. Truth, facts, evidence or even the best interest of my children had no affect on the outcome.

 

The family court system is broken, but from my experience, it is not the laws, its the lawyers. They feed off of the conflict. They are not hired to reduce conflict or protect the best interest of children, which is why third parties need to be involved. It should be mandatory for children to have a guardian ad litem, with extensive training in abuse and aggression.

 

It is absolutely shameful that the Fairfax County Court did nothing to intervene or understand the ongoing conflict. Judge Randy Bellows also used the Children as punishment, by withholding access for failing to fax a receipt. The entire conflict centered around the denial of access to the children, it was inconceivable to me that he would use children like this. This is exactly what my ex-wife was doing and now Judge Bellows was doing it for her.

To all my family, friends and the people that supported me through this process, I am so sorry. I know my reactions and behavior throughout this process did not always make sense. None of this made sense to me either. I had no help and the only suggestion I got from my attorneys was to remain silent.

 

At first, I did what I was told, remained silent and listened to my attorneys. Then after I had given my ex-wife full custody to try and appease her, I learned about Psychopathy and emailed Dr. Samenow about my concerns and asked him for help. Of course, I was ignored. As the conflict continued, I was forced to defend myself. When that didn’t work, I thought I could get the help I needed by speaking out. There is no right or wrong way to defend yourself from abuse. Naively, I thought that abuse was abuse and it would be recognized and something would be done. I thought speaking out would end the abuse or at least get them to back off. It didn’t. When no one did anything they were emboldened.

 

I took my own life because I had come to the conclusion that there was nothing I could do or say to end the abuse. Every time I got up off my knees, I would get knocked back down. They were not going to let me be the father I wanted to be to my children. People may think I am a coward for giving up on my children, but I didn’t see how I was going to heal from this. I have no money for an attorney, therapy or medication. I have lost four jobs because of this process. I was going to be at their mercy for the rest of my life and they had shown me none.

 

Being alienated, legally abused, emotionally abused, isolated and financially ruined are all a recipe for suicide. I wish I were stronger to keep going, but the emotional pain and fear of going to court and jail [because of exorbitant child support] became overwhelming. I became paralyzed with fear. I couldn’t flee and I could not fight. I was never going to be allowed to heal or recover. I wish I were better at articulating the psychological and emotional trauma I experienced.

 

I could fill a book with all the lies and mysterious rulings of the Court. Never have I experienced this kind of pain. I asked for help, but good men did nothing and evil prevailed. All I wanted was a Guardian Ad Litem for my children. Any third party would have been easily been able to confirm or refute all of my allegations, which is why none was ever appointed to protect the children or reduce the conflict.

 

Abuse is about power and control. Stand up for the abused and speak out. If someone speaks out about abuse, believe them.

Please teach my children empathy and about emotional invalidation and ‘gas-lighting’ or they may end up like me.

God have mercy on my soul.

Chris Mackney

This link will give you a copy of demand letter, which like the suicide note, has the children’s names redacted.

Letter.

Within that document we note that an Arlington County, Virginia judge has ruled that Dina Mackney, the widow of this suicide victim, is authorized to seek reasonable legal remedies to force a large number of websites, where this information has already been made available, to remove the information in question.

We reject the notion that our publication is in violation of copyright laws, and that the suicide note is not covered by fair use statutes.

We also believe, given the horrific state of our family courts, it is in the compelling public interest that his final words be published and disseminated as robustly as possible.

The chief responsibility of A Voice for Men is advocacy for men who have been trampled in precisely the ways outlined in this tragic note, and to do whatever is within our means to address the disproportionate suicide rate in men, especially as it relates to high conflict divorces.

If what Mr. Mackney said in his final note is true, and we have no reason to believe that what amounts to his dying words are less than that, then what this threatened legal action represents is an attempt by his former wife to chase him down – even into the grave – to issue the final and complete edict for his silence in the face of horrendous abuse.

It is an act which will also probably eliminate any chance those children ever have to know how their father felt and what he was thinking before taking his own life.

I will gladly take residence in my own grave before I comply with that kind of agenda.

  • Addendum – the suicide note provided here is not complete. The complete version of the letter is available here:

http://www.brainsyntax.com/Portal/Material/1/Lasttestamentofalovingfatherabusedbythefamilycourtsystem.pdf

30+ EXAMPLES OF FEMALE PRIVILEGE. REWORKING THE MYTH OF MALE PRIVILEGE PT. 4

The more I play with it, the more I understand it but at the same time discover new things to be confused about. No I’m not talking about my penis I’m talking about my laptop and sitting down to write at it is something that time rarely allows me to embrace. Working full time and being a single parent doesn’t help either… Wait. Did I just sound like so many women there?

Anyway, I have snuck a little time in recently and after I wrote my last post I was immediately attracted to the female privilege I am to rework next which states:

“You can be confident that your coworkers won’t assume you were hired because of your sex.”

Now this little gem (found here) I loved instantly after reading it. Not because I thought it contained even a zebra’s stool ounce of wisdom but because I had just recently read an article which revealed a fact that turned the whole thing into this beautiful misshapen heap of slap in the ass irony.

I shed a single tear. Really I did.

Perhaps a small window can be opened here, not to the ad nauseum actions of feminism at work, but it’s dark and real consequences. However it is not we, the sane, that will feel the effects of said consequences, but rather the feminists that will get the full, Hi-def close encounter with irony of the 3rd kind. The article in all its glorious tom foolery can be found…

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If you didn’t get the hint, please go read the article first before continuing. Irony is a mistress who needs her extremities slightly caressed before she graces you with her full experience.

(Insert calming sounds of the sea side here)

(Insert calming sounds of the sea side here)

Absorbed it? Good. Now let’s read that male privilege one more time.

 “You can be confident that your coworkers won’t assume you were hired because of your sex.”

Part 1 – How to get a job if you are a woman

In the article you just read it stated, “In an experiment that involved sending out more than 2,500 resumes either with or without photos of the applicant, economics researchers Bradley Ruffle at Ben-Gurion University and Ze’ev Shtudiner at Ariel University Center sought to answer the question of whether being good looking could help you find a job.” Now I wish we lived in a world where the awful consequences of hypocrisy were more transparent and better understood by the majority of people, but that galaxy is 12 parsecs over. You know the one where feminism was never born, but since we don’t I’m going to have to rub it in a little.

Here we have this study to determine what factor attractiveness has in regards to companies hiring employees. These two economist researchers, poised and ready, send their troops out to collect the data. As they anxiously await the results, the troops come limping home far too early for all the data to have been collected.

“Why are you back soon!” shouts economist number 1. “It’s impossible you have everything we need!”

The quivering troops reply, “We ran into something we hadn’t reckoned on.”

That’s right. They hadn’t counted on the towering gauntlet that lay between them and the information they wished to share with the world. What was this gauntlet you say? Well none other than the Minotaur of Crete …err… I mean the HR department.

Anyone who has worked for almost any type of company knows HR, but despite my assumption that most of you don’t have the best of relationships with these strange folk living in your offices, how bad could they be? Well there is the fact that according to the research, “93 percent of the HR staffers deciding whether to call in someone for an interview were female. It turns out that HR women (who also tend to be young and single and hence still in the dating market for men) are eager to meet with handsome men. But they’re jealous of beautiful women.” Don’t believe it? If you are at work, take a stroll down to the HR department and take a peek inside. Count the pumps and scents of perfume, and if you do it stealthily enough you might catch them doing one of their two favorite activities, talking or doing nothing.

But I’m not here to write a hit piece on HR, the article did that nicely. I am here to expose the hypocrisy of the thesis stating that women are severely disadvantaged in the work force because men only hire them for their looks; oh how the enema of irony hurts so good. It is not the hairy outstretched palm of patriarchy turning ugly women away and groping beautiful women as they walk through the company doors with no real experience, it is actually other bitchy feminists just like you that are the reason you are printing out your 15th résumé this month. In fact if more men held positions at the front gates of companies, according to the data you would all be employed by now. (That is if you send in a naked picture of yourself along with your former work history)

I have great interpersonal skills.

So do people assume that women get hired for their looks and not their skills? Well one of the articles that Forbes sourced stated, “Studies have shown that they (women) are more likely to be promoted than their plain-Jane colleagues. Because people tend to project positive traits onto them, such as sensitivity and poise, they may also be at an advantage in job interviews.” After the revelations of the aforementioned Israeli study however, whether or not you are hired based on your sex depends on who is doing the hiring and 93% of the time it is a woman, so if you are pretty you might also be out of luck.

Part 2 – Female Aggression

You are an attractive women hitting the pavement in search of a new career. You are determined and know that what you might lack in ability you can more than make up for with some perfume and a push-up bra. It might not be fair but hey, it’s a dog eat dog world, or should I say woman eat woman.

The New York Times sourced a recent issue of ‘Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society’ where a Dr. Hrdy pointed out some interesting data about female competition. In it she states, “intrasexual competition is the most important factor explaining the pressures that young women feel to meet standards of sexual conduct and physical appearance.” In the immortal words of Dr. Watson, no shit Sherlock! Women really compete aggressively with one another over sexual conduct and physical appearance? What most of us just took for common knowledge, these scientists set out to prove once and for all as being the truth.

The article states, “To see how female students react to a rival, researchers brought pairs of them into a laboratory at McMaster University for what was ostensibly a discussion about female friendships. But the real experiment began when another young woman entered the room asking where to find one of the researchers.” The pairs of female students observed a very attractive woman come into the room saying she was looking for a researcher. Unknown to the students, their reactions were being recorded as they observed the women sometimes in jeans and sometimes in a much sexier get up. The jeans didn’t get much of a reaction but when she wore the low cut blouse and short skirt, ‘virtually all the students reacted with hostility.’ To me, a study like this is the equivalent of poking a hungry wild bear and expecting him not to eat you, but hey it’s science.

Let's see what happens if we cover ourselves in BBQ sauce.

Let’s see what happens if we cover ourselves in BBQ sauce.

During the study the female students conducted themselves as hostile females do. They rolled their eyes, muttered among themselves and even shouted at the woman. When the lady left the room the reactions were even worse with the students laughing out loud and saying that the woman must have wanted to have sex with a professor. Again, are we really surprised at this?

The article sums up by also stating that slut shaming is committed far more often by women than men, and that it is social pressure from female peers that drive women neurotic with fancy diets, expensive clothes and general low self esteem, not TV advertisements or the half attractive neighbor that seems to be staring at you every time you are watering your lawn. Yes, women can now, under the sound objectivity of science, be assured that the greatest threat to their strivings for equality and feminine pride are other women. Now go eat a piece of cheesecake, watch Twilight for the 17th time and cry yourself to sleep.

Conclusion

One thing I like about this continuing piece I’m writing is that it challenges me and my writing ability. No, I don’t have wet dreams about what I can write next on the ill behavior of women and feminists. It is often a struggle between actually giving a shit about this subject and playing the X-Box and the latter usually wins out; but by God you do learn a thing or two.

For one thing, though the staggering pettiness women have between one another comes as no surprise, it is refreshing to see scientists, and women scientists at that, really drive the point home. Sure women may feel they are unfairly thought of as having gained employment simply because of their sex, but guess what? It is other women who are making that assumption! And not only are women assuming you are nothing but a slut in a business suit, but they are also in the best position to shatter your career achieving dreams because your boobs seemed a little perkier than hers when you came in for the job interview.

Meet the new CEO of Apple.

Meet the new CEO of Apple.

There is no patriarchy here. That old dog has bought the farm. The looming shadow of a successful man no more holds the key to your winning career than does your see through blouse and 4 inch pumps. Instead could we be seeing an unforeseen side effect of modern day feminism? Are the little spoiled princesses finally waking up from their generation long self aggrandizing binge, with the worst hangover imaginable laying in bed next to an extremely obese Asian man and a midget dyke dressed as a purple dildo? Have women become their own worst enemies in their blind pursuit of unlimited privilege with no responsibility? Time will tell and when it does I’ll make lots of popcorn and have a front row seat to karma’s wonderful conclusion. But wait a few minutes and some feminist retard will try to magically fem-splain how men are somehow responsible for the puke stains and graffiti on her tits. In the meantime let’s try to come up with our own female privilege for number four on our list…

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Wait a second… when I think about it, I haven’t really highlighted a female privilege in this piece at all. Instead I’ve only pointed out how the biggest disadvantage women have in regards to their careers and social status is other women! I can’t for the life of me think of any advantage women may have in this area if they are doomed to constantly compete with other women!

Unless they are ugly…

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Curse you Mr. Metrosexual!

You may have won this time, but I’ll be back!

Yours Sincerely,

The Evil Doctor Sirias

P.S. Your mother wears army boots and has no problem finding a job!