Open Letter to Rape Culture

Dear Rape Victims,

I am truly sorry that you were raped.

Yours Sincerely,

Rape Apologist.

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By Ayam Sirias

Within the issues of gender differences and conflict these days, money definitely plays an important role. Usually when money rears its ugly head from the trenches of gender warfare, we tend to take aim at the heart which beats to a bad Miley Cyrus tune (as if a good one exists) screaming that men unfairly earn more money than women throughout the work force for doing the same jobs. But number two on this list isn’t about making money is it. No, this point is not aimed at the heart, but the steel balls of cold hard cash. The second mythical male privilege we will tackle today isn’t about earning money but spending it.

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Mythical male privilege #2:

“You can be careless with your money and not have people blame it on your sex.”

“Money makes the world go round”, one popular idiom proclaims and though this may be arguable, most would agree that some scary kind of truth rings true with it. So to give a proper introduction to my next reworking, I now present a few quotes which may not only ring bells of truth but also the bell ends of many men reading this.

“If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning.” – Aristotle Onassis

“Someone stole all my credit cards, but I won’t be reporting it. The thief spends less than my wife did.” – Henny Youngman

“Ah, yes, divorce … from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man’s genitals through his wallet” — Robin Williams

“It’s money. I remember it from when I was single” — Billy Crystal

“There’s a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It’s called marriage” — James Holt McGavran

“If you’re given a choice between money and sex appeal, take the money. As you get older, the money will become your sex appeal.” — Katherine Hepburn

“A father is someone who carries pictures in his wallet where his money used to be” — unknown

“In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.” –Tony Montana (Al Pacino) Scarface

Read through those quotes and take some time to think about them and if you can relate to them while I begin to pick apart the second point from the list that can be found at this blog spot here.

First of all not only is this just the second point on the list but also the second point that says that the true disadvantage women face in regards to the issue, is having their behavior blamed on their sex. I’m starting to think that the author thinks men and some women can’t possibly blame the poor behavior of women on realistic things such as a lack of education or difficult upbringing because then it wouldn’t be sexist. It would just be, you know, some people in some places having an issue with responsible spending. But what is our grand emperor patriarchy without his transparent garment of sexism? Second of all, it appears that the meat of this particular male privilege is the careless spending of money.

The author obviously believes that irresponsible spending habits can be had by members of both sexes, and I agree with this, but let’s take a look at the sordid love affair between women and money from a few angles and try to put this concept into perspective.

The ties that bind.

The ties that bind.

The Consumption of Women

Another common phrase we often here is, money is power. However, I would add to this in pointing out that money laying around in your pocket doesn’t truly exert its power until it is spent or earned; in other words transacted. While you may hear the crunched numbers of women only earning 77 cents to a man’s dollar in the world of work, why don’t we find out who is actually spending all this money.

According to a Nielsen report called Women of Tomorrow, “Women control the majority of household spending decisions, their influence is growing and they are increasingly exercising this new-found power in a variety of ways.”  According to another article that has sourced that same report, “women are responsible for 65% of global spending and 80% of US spending – (everything from autos to health care)”. Do these figures really surprise anyone? Now the question must be asked, what constitutes careless spending of money? Is it careless to spend your money on what we might call luxury items such as beauty enhancing or cosmetic products and procedures? Well according to this article which sourced the Huffington post and YouGov for the data, “women reportedly spend $426 billion a year on beauty products” and “women pay $151 billion extra a year in fees and markups that men don’t have to pay on the same products”.  Now feminists may cry that women having to spend more money than men on these types of products is sexist, but is it really a wonder as to why? Bottom line, women love spending money and the advertisers and marketers know this.

Whether careless spending can be defined as spending money on useless products or the sheer amount of consumption alone, women top the list in all categories.  Yes, women’s spending stretches a manicure mile and it follows that the more money you spend the better your chances of spending it carelessly. But if the data is correct about women’s spending habits AND that women on average earn 23% less than men in the work force, where does a lot of the money that women are spending come from?

Men’s Money

Let’s face it. With women spending those ridiculous amounts of money but earning less, it would follow that like the header of this section suggests, a lot of that spent money is coming from men; These men being husbands, boyfriends, lovers, fathers, sons and the state.

Husbands foot a hefty bill because of the shackles of marriage. They are expected by society to support the woman and children financially with their daily expenses and needs. I don’t even want to get into the evils of alimony and child support; that is a point for another article which will assuredly come as we trudge through this list. Also, what about boyfriends and lovers paying for dates, meals and drinks when a couple goes out? Or even the heavy cost of proposing when it comes to shelling out for a woman’s best friend, the diamond? Feminist’s everywhere cry for equality but until they start putting the money down for dates, excepting lower priced engagement gifts and coughing up money of their own for child support, I’m going to keep saluting them with the royal middle finger of this so called patriarchy that spawns the endless male privilege in our society.

Then there is all the money women legally suck from their pseudo-husbands and lovers, the state. How much money by default is granted to single mothers, divorcees, women cancer victims, women abuse victims and on and on by the state compared to what men in similar positions have access to? I swear if the state was phallic and had multiple vibration settings women would announce that heaven has arrived and it is here on Earth.

I myself have experienced separation and divorce and though I can be severely punished for not proving that I am sending money to my wife and child every month, she is never expected to prove that she is actually spending that money on my child or if she is even spending it responsibly at all. How do I know she is not just contributing her part to that bottomless pit of cosmopolitan consumption every time my sphincter tightens as I press OK on the ATM machine each pay day?


I think everyone can agree that people of all races, creeds, gender and religious denominations have the capacity to spend money carelessly, but the numbers do show that women are the best at it. Is it solely because of their sex as the author of the article I am dismantling believes? Or is it something else? I will let you the readers decide, but for now I am going to rework the original male privilege that begun this article into a female one. I now present to you, female privilege number two on my list.

#2. You are allowed to carelessly spend money as long as it belongs to a man.

That’s right. As a woman, you might carelessly spend your own money and some people may even blame it on your sex, but you can also merrily burn holes in a man’s pockets while skipping through the mall and everyone seems to be OK with that!

Before I go I want to point out that I’m trying to make a meme to go along with every female privilege I post but I found this one here on the net and I doubt I could top it.

Kind of like taking a stiletto heel to the balls isn't it fellas.

Kind of like taking a stiletto heel to the balls isn’t it fellas.

Ouch! But fear not, I’m still going to end this piece with my own meme, cause that’s just how I roll.

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Check in later when I tackle the third mythical male privilege from the turd list which states:

“You can be a careless driver and not have people blame it on your sex.”

This here one is gonna be funner than tellin’ a woman her shoes don’t match her dress… Yeee haw!